Getting Scrappy: Settling In

After all the hustle and bustle of the last few weeks, I was truly exhausted. We spent a day just relaxing and then prepared for Jade's visit. Now, whenever Jade's in town, fun things happen. She's not one to like to relax and hang out, but would rather constantly be on the go. My dear daughter is one of the most intelligent and quirky-fun people that I've ever known. She's worked her magic in the past to get what she wants. She knows my buttons and my soft-spots just as well as I know hers. The difference is - she's only 15 years old! She's always been bright and friendly but I didn't really put all the puzzle pieces together until recently. While we spent the last (almost) 15 years together, this past year she decided she wanted to live with her father in Portland, Oregon. It was very, very difficult for me, but I truly thought she would grow by having her dad's influence in her life and I was willing to put her needs in front of my own wants for her ultimate benefit. It wasn't fun or easy, but I've learned a lot in this last year apart from her. I've really been able to enjoy Jade for the wonderful person she is. When you live the daily grind together, you can tend to lose sight of, or take advantage of the people in your lives. I stopped doing what was ultimately unimportant stuff (like work) when she came to visit me and truly experience the huge bond that we had. The relationship flourished and I can honestly say that I loved her company (even in the years where teenagers get moody and don't like to hang out with their parents.) She really loved spending time with me. We did things that we never seemed to have the time for previously. I didn't worry about her homework, soccer practices, etc. So every time we are together, it's fun and we start up just where we left off each time. Jade gets much of her affection and affirmations from me and I try and tell her each and every time I talk to her or see her just how incredible she is, how proud I am of her and how much I love her and love being her mom...